A gag is a device designed to prevent speech, or as a device to stop the subject from calling for help.
This is usually done by blocking the mouth, partially or completely, or attempting to prevent the tongue, lips, or jaw from moving in the normal patterns of speech. They are often less effective in reality than in crime fiction. They carry a strong risk of killing the victim by suffocation. In fact, the more "effective" a gag appears to be, the more hazardous it is.
The use of gags is commonly depicted in crime fiction, frequently with fetishistic connotations. In real life, it is actually very rare for criminals to gag anyone as they do in books and films. (In extremely rare cases, courts have been known to gag unruly defendants.)
Gags can be combined with blindfolds and other sensory deprivation devices to create some very exciting (and very scary) scenes. If you are new to BDSM, I would recommend taking baby steps. Use bondage without gag or blindfolds the first time you play, and then, one by one, add other elements.
Some people are sexually aroused by the sight of gags, or activities involving gags. One specific paraphilia relates to scenes on television in which the captor gags the damsel in distress to stop her screaming for help. Gags are usually associated with roleplays involving bondage, but that is not necessarily the case. The person who wears the gag is regarded as the submissive partner, while the one not wearing one is regarded as the dominant one. Some people are sexually aroused by such imagery, even if there is no nudity or sexual act present, sometimes going as far as to search video stores and websites for certain scenes.
Other people appear to find that being gagged exacerbates their sense of helplessness within a BDSM scene, and desire to be gagged for that reason. Gags also have connotations of punishment and control, and thus are often also used as a form of humiliation to the wearer.
People wear a gag for a variety of reasons. Some people derive erotic pleasure from a gag, either in a submissive or dominant role. When combined with other physical restraints, the wearing of a gag can increase the wearer's sense of helplessness and anxiety level within a BDSM scene, by depriving them of a means to influence the progress of a sexual activity through speech. Some people enjoy the feeling of surrendering the ability to speak to another person in an activity.
For some people, gags have connotations of punishment and control, and thus can be used as a form of humiliation. It is considered that wearing a gag without restraints is an act of humiliation, as is an open mouth gag. Some fetishists are sexually aroused by the sound gagged people make when they try to speak, or by seeing a person drool uncontrollably.
The type of gag that is used will depend on the tastes of the parties, to the type of roleplay scene, as well as what is on hand at the time and safety considerations. Some gags are designed to fill the mouth in some manner, while others are designed to provide access to the mouth by forcing the mouth open. Gags may be classified as over-the-mouth type, mouth stuffing type or mouth opening type.
When a person is sexually aroused by gags, it may be considered a paraphilia. One specific paraphilia involving a gag relates to video depictions in which the captor gags the damsel in distress to stop her screaming for help. Some people are sexually aroused by such imagery, even if there is no nudity or sexual act present, or even if the victim is only gagged but not restrained in any way. The 1981 made for television film Terror Among Us has become a cult film among gag fetishists for its lengthy portrayal of bound and gagged women.
Placing a gag on anybody is very risky, as it involves a substantial risk of asphyxia if the subject's nose is blocked while wearing a gag. Using a gag on somebody who is ill, or affected by some condition such as the common cold, catarrh, the flu, or common allergies (including your cologne or perfume) is also quite dangerous, as most gags make it difficult or impossible to breathe through the mouth. Vomiting and choking also pose a risk, which further blocks the airway. For this reason, a gagged subject should never be left alone.
In practice, no gag is effective enough to silence someone completely without inhibiting breathing. Most gags that do stop the subject from making intelligible speech still allow loud inarticulate vocal noises to call for help. Thus, a pattern of noises, such as three grunts in rapid succession, is sometimes used as a safeword by BDSM players. It is also common to use an additional non-verbal safety mechanism, such as a solid object held in the hand, which can be released by the gagged person as a sign that they are in distress.
One thing to remember is that if your submissive is gagged, she probably will not be able to speak very clearly, so use a safe word that is easily recognized. ("Supercalladociousexpialladosis" is probably not a good choice.) If in doubt, place a set of car rings in each hand, one set dropped is a yellow, both dropped is a red.
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A Personal Note
In some of my sessions, I will make sure that she is absolutely aware of what safewords are, and what her safeword is, and then proceed to remove any ability to utter a sound. It is that point she surely knows that she has given up control, and that she has to trust you.
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